Wednesday, March 4, 2009
The High Road
Sometimes it's hard to take, but time after time I have chosen the "high road" when dealing with hurtful comments about losing my Abby. The thought that some people can be so inconsiderate and down right cruel in what they say just astounds me and brings me to a couple of different conclusions. One is that they are ignorant to the soul-stabbing pain that losing a child causes and the gaping wound that is left behind. Another is that they are so self-centered that they can't see beyond their own noses to even attempt to feel compassion for another human being. A third is that they enjoy attempting to bring down another person's spirits and keep shoving them back into the pit of grief no matter how hard they are trying to climb out. So with that being said, I am at a crossroad yet again. Do I take the high road? (Of course.) The comments left on the blog have to be approved by me, thankfully, so others won't be subjected to the meanness, but I still have to read them. Mean, hurtful comments are left anonymously for me to delete. The blog has different options that I can take and have considered. One is making the blog private, meaning I have to invite anyone to read it. Another is not allowing anonymous comments. While these would solve the problem, I feel it goes against what I am trying to do in this blog. I want to keep the public, not just a select few people, informed of the happenings of the Foundation and I want people to feel free to leave notes and messages. Another option is to block out the specific computer by its ip address (which I have), but part of me does not want to do this either. I want this person to be able to see what good things the Foundation is doing, the lives being touched, and the spirit of Abrielle living on. I want them to see and understand that the Foundation will be around forever (I know Mady will take over the reigns someday to keep her sister's memory alive) and it is not a pity-party thing we made up for the short time, despite what they think. So as I choose again to just delete the comments, I hope the author takes the time and hugs their kids, tells their family they love them, and tries to learn compassion. That being said, please feel free to leave comments, notes, messages, whatever on this site as it is open to the public now and always will be.