Friday, November 28, 2008
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
I have also changed my mind as to what kind of picture I want in Ryan Sundermann's cell. Virginia used to teach in the prison system and clued me in on how some of the prisoners are. I really had not given any thought to the fact that there are pedophiles in there and that they might enjoy seeing my little girl's picture. I don't think this should get him out of having a constant reminder, so I think I am going to ask for a picture of her headstone instead. I'm not positive on this yet.
So now I am down to begging everyone out there.... please get us your letters soon. So far my public plea has only gotten 7 letters. I was so hoping for a lot more than that. Community attitude is one of the factors in the consideration of parole, so they need to hear from the community. It does not have to be anything long or eloquent, just something that voices your opinion that Ryan Sundermann should not be released. Please!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Monday, November 24, 2008
We even broke in some more newbies (and we love that)! Lori Sneed, Shantel Farnan, and Marvin Lager came and helped for the first time.
Thanks for all the help everyone.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thursday, November 20, 2008
It seems we are not the only ones confused by the way the system works. Hopefully this article will educate others that are like us and had no idea this is what happens. As the article notes, community attitude is one of the factors in parole release, hence us asking for letters. I am hoping that if the board sees a large amount of letters that will influence their decisions. So, tell everyone to get their letters to us (in our hands by December 2nd) so we can keep Ryan Sundermann in prison.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
On June 25, 2008, Ryan Sundermann was sentenced to six years in prison. While we understood that a six year sentence did not mean six years behind bars in a state facility, we did think that we had two years before we would have to worry about a parole hearing. Our hearts broke when we received notice that Ryan Sundermann would be receiving his first parole consideration hearing on December 3, 2008. We feel that six months behind bars is in no way enough punishment for our daughter’s death. We have spent over 600 days missing our little Abrielle while Sundermann has spent 161 days in prison. With his history of offenses, it would only be a matter of time before someone else becomes the victim and no one else needs to endure this heartache. Our little girl would be five now if it were not for Sundermann’s selfish act. She would have started kindergarten. She would have gotten her ears pierced this year. She would have been able to enjoy being a big sister like she so wanted to be. Criminals should not be rewarded for their “good behavior” in prison by being released early so we are asking that you join with us in preventing Sundermann’s release. We will be attending his parole hearing in Cameron to pour our hearts out to the parole board in hopes that the amount of justice the court ordered be served. We are requesting that anyone touched by our Abby’s life to please join in this fight with us and send a letter to the parole board. Ryan Sundermann will not see these letters but they will be read by the board and will become a part of his permanent record. These letters may be mailed to us, Marc and Brenda Neff, 16835 Icon Road, Pickering, MO 64476 or given to any immediate family member. We thank you for all the support shown to us during this long ordeal and pray that the legal aspects of this nightmare end soon with justice for our Abrielle.
Any of my blog readers out there wanting to send a letter, we would love to take them with us. Hopefully the more letters we have, the less his chance for parole.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Monday, November 17, 2008
I also wanted to share something that I can't seem to get out of my head. I am a huge ER fan and have been since the show started. Since the accident there have been a few times that I just could not watch because it hit too close to home, but for the most part I don't miss an episode. Last Thursday I watched as one of the new doctors on the show battle through flashbacks of losing her son. I sat there and cried, not able to turn the channel. She said something that has stuck with me since then. When you lose your parents, you're an orphan. When you lose your spouse they call you a widow/widower. But when you lose your child....they don't have a word for that.
Friday, November 14, 2008
In other good news, our JackJack is back to his old self. You have no idea how big of a relief this is. Yes, it means putting up with his orneriness, but I'll take it. He's even been jumping into bed with me at night and waking me up to play. Obviously I'm not playing with a cat at some ridiculous hour in the morning, but it's proof he's feeling better. He's back to eating like he should and everything else seems normal. I guess no more going into Abby's room for him.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Last night's topic was handling the holidays. We were given resources to help us through this time of the year and were able to talk to each other about things to do or not do. I expressed that I seem to be having a really hard time this year too. I was relieved to hear that some people have a harder time the second year than they do the first. Society seems to think that once you have made it through the first year that you should be back to "normal." It doesn't work that way. This year it has been the fact that Abby should have started kindergarten. It has been seeing her preschool classmates at school learning and playing. It has been seeing them parade in their Halloween costumes. It has been carving a third pumpkin for our little girl in Heaven. It has been Elly learning to say Abby's name and knowing who she is. It has been digging through the clothes that Abby wore to find some for Elly. It has been reliving the nightmare even after the prison sentence. The list goes on. The whole first year (and even sometimes now) I felt like I was on auto pilot, not sure which end was up. The magic one year anniversary (Abby's Heavenly Birthday) did not make the pain any easier like so many people think. Yes, we've made it through most all the firsts, but we did our best to skip them, so really we didn't make it through them. We cheated I guess you could say. We were not even going to put up a tree last year and if it had not been for the ice storm and people staying at our house, we would not have had one out. Sad, but true. We did our best to skip any and every tradition we could. I think if we could have we would have left and went away until it was all over. So, the holidays this year are not going to be any easier I'm afraid. Maybe year 3, but I am not going to hold out hope. I did feel like I was able to help out another Mom for the first time though. I told her that we always include something of Abby's in pictures when we have them taken. Afterall, she is still a part of our family. Hopefully this will make their family pictures a little easier.
Monday, November 10, 2008
In other Foundation news...
Wow! I cannot believe we just received our third Wells Fargo donation. ($300 for closing a loan with Wells Fargo is donated to a nonprofit of their choice) This one came from Cory and Sarah Money. Thanks for thinking of us!
MMS Octagan Club gathered some animals for us from students. I'll try to snap some photos and post them later. Thanks to them for taking on our cause!
Some people have asked what the "symbol" is on the back. It's her letter A. We had them copy one of the ones that she had written and they engraved it on the back. I did remove a few of the decorations yesterday, but just the Halloween ones. I put out a turkey stake and a scarecrow. The cemetery is great up there and lets us leave her grave decorated all the time. We take care of the weeding and we trim the grass on her site since the ground has not settled to level yet. Anyway, this is where we get to spend our "family time" on Sundays now.
Friday, November 7, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
On another note, all the positive thoughts must have helped because JackJack has finally started eating! He had eaten his bowl full of food by this morning. I am so relieved! If something happened to him I know I would be a mess. I promised Abby.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Monday, November 3, 2008
Elly also got her first haircut. She was not too sure what was going on. Mema held her while Grandma caught the hair. We tried to help out by sweeping the floors so the stylists would not have to. Sometimes we weren't too sure if we were helping or in the way since they were moving people through so fast.Kelly and Virginia cleaning up.Shannon and Mady sweeping.
Here are is everyone that volunteered to make this happen for us. Be sure to thank these guys when you see them.
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Hope to see you Sunday!