Friday, May 29, 2009
The first picture is of her Princess crown coat hook. On it she hung her Dora robe she had gotten for Christmas (she wanted a robe like Mommy and Sissy), one of her preschool artworks (I think it's from Valentine's), and her play jacket (the one she wore helping out in the yard the weekend before).
The second picture is one of her toy baskets. This is Annabelle (she would pronounce it Andabell) that she was so attached to. She was her favorite doll.
The third picture is of the painted letter "A" that hangs above her bed. Abby helped me pick out the colors for her A, told me what order to paint them in, and helped paint some. We did this project together two weeks before we lost her.
The journaling on the next page reads, "When we came home from the hospital that night, we closed the door to Abby's room, leaving everything as she left it - trapped in time."
The first picture is her Barbies in the jeep, ready to go for a spin. Below that is her princess dress hanging off her butterfly hook. She got this princess dress for Christmas and for some reason had to strip down every time to put it on. She would not put it on over the clothes she was wearing.
The top picture is her twin size bed. The bed was not made that morning, but what kid does make their bed. The sheets are actually brand new. I bought new sheets for the girls the week before and they we able to choose which one they wanted. This set is light pink with darker pink hearts, the other was just a solid pink. Of course both girls wanted this one, so we had to pick numbers and I said they could share the sheets, as in Abby have them one week, Mady the next time after they were washed. Obviously now the sheets will not be shared. On Abrielle's bed is her Nemo blanket that she drug around with Blankie. She had this with her at breakfast that morning. The quilt is her PS I Love You quilt that Mema Phyllis made her. There is also a pile of clean clothes on the bed. These were what were in the laundry at the time and I just couldn't put them away. We didn't empty her hamper ~ it still has the last clothes she wore in it.
The last picture is of her some things on her floor. It is a baby doll blanket, her build-a-bear cheerleader skirt, and one of her "cowgirl" boots. She had pulled these on the evening before with her capris to go help Marc outside.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
For their other outfit, I grabbed a pair of Abby's sunglasses off her dresser and slipped them into the shots. They are not real noticeable, but I know they're there. Here is one of the poses of the girls with Abby's sunglasses by the chair.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
To laugh and run and play.
To be there by your side.
I'm sorry that I had to die.
God sent me down to be with you,
to make your loving heart anew.
To help you look up and see
Both God and little me.
Mommy, I wish I could stay.
Just like I heard you pray.
But, all the angels did cry
when they told little me goodbye.
God didn't take me cause He's mad.
He didn't send me to make you sad.
But to give us both a chance to be
a love so precious .. don't you see?
Up here no trouble do I see
and the pretty angels sing to me.
The streets of gold is where I play
you'll come here too, mommy, someday.
Until the day you join me here,
I'll love you mommy, dear.
Each breeze you feel and see,
brings love and a kiss from me.
By Sandy Eakle
Friday, May 22, 2009
Country Critters is back! They are the petting zoo people that the kids just loved. Me, well, I was quite proud of myself for even looking at the snakes last year and the alligator was just cool. I did touch him several times. I must say though that I ran out of the tent when the big albino snake decided to stick his head up out of his container. Just not a snake person ~ the baby raccoons, the bunnies, and the other critters with fur are more my speed. On a sad note though, the owners had a fire at their home this winter and lost over 100 reptiles, birds, and small animals in cages. So, yes, they lost their two huge snakes the kids had their pictures taken with last year and their alligator. They have been working hard, building back up the scaley end of their petting zoo and do have a new alligator and new snakes to bring. The furry critters will be here too, including an alpaca, a mini donkey, exotic chickens, bunnies, and much more. So even if you're like me and snakes are not your thing, I do recommend touching the alligator and you can't go wrong petting the furries.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
And God said, "I know."
I said, "God, I cry a lot."
And God said, "That is why I gave you tears."
I said, "God, I am so depressed."
And God said, "That is why I gave you Sunshine."
I said, "God, life is so hard."
And God said, "That is why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "God, my loved one died."
And God said, "So did mine."
I said, "God, it is such a loss."
And God said, "I saw mine nailed to a cross."
I said, "God, but your loved one lives."
And God said, "So does yours."
I said, "God, where is he now?"
And God said, "Mine is on My right and Yours is in the Light."
I said, "God it hurts."
And God said, "I know."
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
while 97.1 the 'Vill cranked out the tunes and tried to help draw people in. The kids were able to jump in the bouncy house and were given some balloons to play with. Test drivers were able to write their name on a little car a stick it in the window, showing their support.
Thanks to everyone that came out and drove a car and thanks to Rolling Hills for raising money for the Foundation! We'll update with a total when we receive the donation.
On a different note, I know some of you like to pop in here before you go to work, so I'm going to be bumping the posting time back to around 7:30. Hope that helps you catch up on the happenings of the Foundation a little easier.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
Friday, May 15, 2009
The 11th National Donor Recognition Ceremony and Workshop (NDRCW) will take place in July in Washington, D.C. The NDRCW is the Federal government’s biennial event that takes place in the nation’s capital and pays tribute to all Americans who have donated organs, tissues, or marrow to save or enhance the lives of others. It is a unique opportunity for donor families and living donors, their families and friends, transplant recipients, and donation and transplant professionals from across the country to come together to share experiences and honor organ, tissue, and marrow donors in a special way.
The NDRCW will include a series of educational workshops and sharing sessions on issues or topics of interest to donor families, living donors and professionals. The National Donor Family Quilt will be on display in its entirety, and donor families will be given the opportunity to pin their own Quilt square in honor of their loved one at the Quilt Pinning. The Recognition Ceremony will feature special presentations to honor America’s heroes – living donors and those who donated organs and/or tissues after death. Each family and living donor will also receive a Donor Recognition Medal and a Certificate of Appreciation from the Administrator of the Health Resources and Services Administration.
Our Abby will have a square on the National Quilt "Patches of Love"! (I'll share it when we complete it). We will also be taking a bus trip to visit the National Donor Memorial at UNOS (United Network of Organ Sharing) in Richamond, VA. We've been told that the Garden is very powerful to see. Also, UNOS is the place where it all happens. It is the place where lives are saved as donors and recipients from all over the country are matched there.
All I can say is, what an honor to be able to go!
Thursday, May 14, 2009
The first page is very simple. It simply contains the funeral flyer, stapled to the page so all sides can still be read and some journaling about the flowers.
For those of you that did not attend the service of our Abrielle, the inside page contains the poem written by Virginia (Mom Neff) titled "Where's Abrielle".
The journaling in the circle reads, "These words were read by Pastor Paul at the funeral along with the poem written Grandma 'Ginia wrote. There was no way we were able to read these ourselves, but we wanted our sentiments known. Beth was able to make the spray for the casket with ribbons reading Daughter, Sister, Granddaughter, Friend, and Princess. She also made a heart wreath from all the Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins."
The second page contains the words that Marc and I wrote to have read at the service. The pictures are of the flowers Beth (my sister) made for Abby. She was thinking enough to take pictures for me to have later for this album.
Here are our words~
Our Sweet Little Girl –
You were so full of spunk and energy that you bounced and ran everywhere you went. We’d get frustrated when you wouldn’t listen to us and tried to venture too far. You were our small and mighty little girl that had no fear. You approached life head on with your bull-headed attitude and always said “I do it myself”. Mema summed it up best when she said you were just full of life. We now know why. You had so much to see and do in your short time with us that you did not want to miss out on any of it.
You blessed Mommy, Daddy, and Sissy so much. You gave us almost 4 years of unforgettable memories. From sitting on the kitchen counter helping Mommy make cookies or krispies, to helping Daddy mow the yard until bathtime, to cranking up the CDs in Sissy’s room while you played Barbies together, to playing hide-and-seek with all of us – even though you were the worst hiding partner to have since you couldn’t keep still and would answer “I in here” when being searched for.
With your contagious smile, there was never anyone you wouldn’t call your friend. You managed to crack some of the toughest, thick-skinned men and would wiggle your way onto their laps and into their hearts. Everyone was, as you would say, “they my best friend”. From all the kids in your preschool class, to Daddy’s poker buddies, to the boys at Mommy’s work, everyone had a special place in your heart.
You had such a big heart and always knew when someone was in need of a hug. You would run up and wrap your little arms around them, squeeze them tight, and softly pat them on the back, saying “it okay”. You had compassion for everyone and passed out kisses to people we thought were total strangers.
You always wanted to help, whether we needed it or not. From Grandma Ginia, MeMa, PaPa, Aunt Becci, Beth, and Tammy, Uncle Bubba and Brian, Grandma-Great, Grandma Chris and Granny; we all felt the touch of your little helping hands. That’s how Mommy and Daddy knew that you had to help someone else one last time while you could. You gave a little boy a second chance with your liver and many others we don’t know about yet.
We thank you for being so brave and fighting so hard to stay with us. We thank you for every smile, every hug, every kiss, every “Love you”, and every second you blessed us with. Mommy, Daddy, Sissy and everyone else will always love you and carry your love in our hearts forever; never to be forgotten.
We love you so much Princess.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Here's a look at this year's quilt for the quilt raffle. It is a king size log cabin quilt in blues, creams, mauves, and browns. The quilt was sewn by Phyllis Schimming (Mom) and quilted in a butterfly pattern by Ruth Wake (my aunt). It is a beautiful quilt and these pictures don't do it justice.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Friday, May 8, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Mady was able to come help us plant and brought along her friend Abby.
Mrs Nielson (above) and Mrs White (below) help dig holes.
I also took several items to help with the outdoor classroom from the Foundation. We purchased new bird feeders, bird houses, butterfly feeders and nectar, ladybug lure, and many other fun things to help the kids learn about nature.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
I was also introduced to some representatives of the Kansas City chapter of Parents of Murdered Children at the symposium on Saturday. They gave me some resources that, if Sundermann should be eligible for parole again before his release date, would help us. Their websites would send out a petition and gather huge numbers of signatures to help our cause. Here are the address for their sites http://www.pomc.com/ (national level) http://www.kcpomc.org/ (local level)
Monday, May 4, 2009
I was able to spend some time in classes while visiting with friends I had made and was able make some new ones too. It is so nice to have people that understand to talk to. We are all at different stages of our grief and are able to support each other through each step. We are able to share our stories, tears, and hugs.
One of the classes I attended addressed some of our other losses. Some talked about the loss of friends, but thankfully, ours have become closer and we have made some new ones since losing Abby. I had to admit that one of my losses is a loss of freedom/independence. This might seem like a strange thing to associate with losing a child, but it was the manner in which we lost her that caused this for me. I burst into tears as I admitted that for me to get into the car alone, with just Mady and drive to an unknown location was a major accomplishment. I am still not able to hop into the car and take off on my own. It's the fact that the accident happened within 3 miles from home on a road I have driven everyday for the last 12 years, a road that I know every hill, curve, and hole and I still could not prevent it. I just have a hard time traveling on unknown roads for fear that something might happen, especially alone with any of my girls. I am hoping to work on this loss, among others. Maybe it will help just acknowledging it.