Abrielle Neff Foundation: Christmas Pictures

Friday, December 5, 2008

Christmas Pictures

I was able to pick up the pictures we had taken of the girls for Christmas yesterday and wanted to share a few. Pictures are still really tough to have taken. We have not been able to bring ourselves to have an actual family picture taken with all of us since we lost Abby. We have only been taking ones of the girls, which is hard enough. I always shed at least one tear. I always make sure to include something of Abby's in the picture, but always have to end up explaining what it is and why to the photographer. The first pictures together we had all three of their special blankets in the picture. Last Christmas I had Abby's hat and gloves. This year Mady helped me pick something out because I was struggling as I stood in her room and looked around. I still don't like to disturb anything so it's tough for me to actually take something out of the place where Abby left it, much less out of her room completely. She chose Ripley. Ripley was Abby's first teddy bear that Aunt Beth got for her when she was born.

Also, check out Kyle's Heart Story blog on the right...he got his new heart! We are so happy for him and his family. Please keep them in you prayers for a speedy recovery. Also keep the donor family in your prayers as they deal with the loss of their loved one.

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Jenni HalleyDecember 5, 2008 at 7:36 PM
Pictures are beautiful. And I think that having something of Abby's in every picture is just so special. I thought of your precious Abby when I heard of Kyle getting his heart, and smiled, knowing that Abby, in the midst of so much pain, brought another family joy. What an amazing gift! I hope it brings you some comfort to know that her little life blesses someone each day. We are going to attempt to decorate our tree and the Daddy tree, and also figure out what the heck to do with a tree for the cemetery. I think life can just be so unfair, I guess we both know. I got my kids' pictures taken about 2 weeks ago, and the smiles on their faces bring me relief in knowing there is happiness among our grief. I thought the same with you, seeing Mady and little Elly. May your lives be blessed with peace.
Jenni
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Our Story...

Abrielle came into this world in a hurry to get started, which gave us our first glimpse at her personality. Not waiting on Dr Jane to put on gloves, only a towel to catch her with, she weighed in at six pounds fifteen ounces. From the beginning Abby had reflux, but there seemed to more than just that as she failed to gain weight. At four months we were sent to draw all kinds of labs, hoping for a solution, but all was normal. By six months of age, the vomiting became worse, almost nightly. We were keeping records of every calorie she ate, every dirty diaper, and every time she vomited. By this time Abby was refusing to eat supper most nights and would throw up her undigested lunch after bathtime at 8:00. Her food was just sitting in her tummy all day. Dr Watson sent us to Omaha Childrens Hospital to Dr Zapata a pediatric gastroenterologist to help diagnois the problem. There, over the next year and a half of her life, Abby underwent testing, treatments, and outpatient procedures. During every procedure she was given a stuffed animal to hold for comfort, even though she had Blankie with her.
To make a long story short, after the accident we discovered St Francis Hospital did not have a program like this for kids and Abby's Hugs was born.

That Tragic Day...

Thursday, March 29, 2007, began like any other school day in our household with the only exception being that it was Abby's sharing day at preschool. We had a rule that if the sharing item was not picked out the night before (which it usually wasn't), Abby had to be ready for school before she could find something to take. This morning was just like most ... nothing was picked out the night before. She hurried faster than usual that way she would have time to find something. After brushing her teeth, she ran to her room to find some clothes. I always tried to give Abby choices, but she was down to her last clean pair of capris. I gave her the option of wearing those, a pair of Gymboree Fruit Punch capris with a bright yellow shirt or jeans and a purple kitty shirt. She decided on the capri outfit which she had actually rejected every other day that week. After getting dressed, she went into Sissy's room and was playing with her LeapPad when I found her. I asked her how she wanted her hair fixed and she said "little pony". (Not that she was going to leave it in anyway) I helped her onto the sink and she dug through her basket of hair things until she found a yellow one. We went into the living room so I could sit down to brush her hair. Since sitting on my lap was now impossible, Abby stood in front of me as I pulled her hair up with the little yellow hair tie. She ran to her room and began looking for something to bring for sharing. She came out with her Little People's Noah's Ark set stuffed full of extra toys. Being a mean Mommy, I said, You can only bring one toy. Aww, was the response as she took the ark back to her room to look for something else. I went on about my routine of making my lunch and everything else to be ready to leave for work. Mady and I headed out to the Expedition and Abby was not following behind. I went back inside to find her and Marc on their way from her room with her big "bobbycat" (bobcat skidloader) for sharing. They had been looking for the scoop that attaches to the front but ran out of time. They decided that just the bobbycat would work. Marc helped buckle Abby in her car seat. Because she was so small we still used the 5-point harness and not just the seatbelt so she required some help. As we left the house, Marc pulled out ahead of the girls and I onto the gravel road. Just around the first set of curves past our house, I slowed down so we could watch the turkeys fly across the road. I am not sure if Abby saw them or not, but she said she did. We continued on, oblivious to our fate that lie ahead.

last added to 10/29 ...this I will add to as I am able ...thanks for understanding.

The Sentence

On June 25, 2008, Ryan C Sundermann was sentenced to 6 years in the Missouri Department of Corrections on charges of involuntary manslaughter. Sundermann wrecklessly caused the death of Abrielle Neff in a motor vehicle collision on March 29, 2007. Sundermann was charged with failing to maintain proper control of his vehicle, failure to drive on the right half of the roadway and operated a motor vehicle after consuming alcohol.
Sundermann was previously convicted of Driving While Intoxicated and Failure to Drive on the Right Half of the Roadway on April 25, 2006 and sentenced to 2 years probation, 12 days in jail, and a $300 fine. On December 19, 2006, Sundermann was again convicted of Excessive Blood Alcohol Content-Prior Offender which he received a Suspended Execution of Sentence of 180 days, was continued on 2 years probation and received a fine.