Sunday, December 21, 2008

Forgiveness ....?

I usually don't post on weekends because I try to keep it for family time, but this weekend I thought I needed to post what we received. As one of the stipulations of our settlement in the civil suit, we receive a check for $1 every month from Ryan Sundermann to the Foundation. The whole point of this so that he cannot forget. It forces him to write her name every month. So when anyone sees that we are to get "millions" in settlement, this is actually all we get....$1 per month for the rest of his life to the Foundation. Obviously right now his mom sends it us. Friday night we received our check enclosed in a Christmas card with a letter. Here's what it said,
"May you find peace within your heart this season - the season of love and forgiveness. I forgive you for the lies you told about my son at the parole hearing. May you seek the truth within your heart and come to an understanding with it. Brenda, you can not begin to feel or know what I am going through as you said at the parole hearing. As for me I know the grief you are feeling as I too have lost a child way too soon. But you can't fixate on that day or that time. You have to move pass that and look to the future. You have to enjoy what is around you and not what could have been. I pray that someday you are able to do that."
I am not even going to post my thoughts and feelings about this letter. Just draw your own conclusions.


  1. She infuriates me to no end!!

  2. I am so sorry that you have to endure things like this. Yes, may you have some peace during the holiday season...peace with your family...not peace and forgiveness for him. May he stay out of your thoughts as you spend time with your family. I continue to pray for you all. Amber

  3. That is so wrong!!! I also wish you peace but that letter was totally uncalled for and very, very wrong!!!

  4. God bless your hearts for having to receive such hurtful words...especially at an already difficult time of year! Know that those words come from a bitter, hateful woman who is obviously too selfish to realize the loss you all have had to endure. As difficult as it may be, may you find comfort in the love of family and friends this holiday season. Merry Christmas!

  5. You know, I read this and was seething with that feeling of hatred. Then I thought, let her say whatever, you know the truth, and God knows the truth, and that is all that matters. I am sorry she lashed out at you though, especially when things have been so hard lately anyway. Keep your head up.